Wedding Meeting: Week 3

Last week's wedding meeting really didn't happen, if I am being completely honest. I didn't stick to the rules of not talking about wedding stuff, but Josh didn't complain, so I figured that I would take advantage of it while I could. He said that I must not have been doing it in an annoying way because he didn't realize. Apparently it is possible for me to not be annoying while talking about wedding things. Go figure.

So we didn't have a meeting because I had mostly shared all of my ideas already and because we were adjusting to my new weekend schedule. So this week Josh wanted to talk on Saturday morning instead of Sunday, which was fine with me. We didn't have much to discuss but I did share some ideas for what our ceremony would include.

First of all, I discovered that Josh thought that not as many people would be going to the ceremony as the reception  which was news to me. I figured that people would be going to both. I have no idea though, I haven't been to many weddings.

Second I shared an idea that I had instead of lighting a unity candle, having a sand ceremony or anything like that. Those things were nice, but they weren't really us. And I just couldn't see us doing anything like that, but I did want something, other than the announcement of husband and wife, to symbolize that we were becoming one. So I saw the idea of tying a fisherman's knot. I think that it symbolizes marriage VERY well. The knot is so strong that the rope will break before the knot comes undone and the knot only becomes stronger when you put pressure on the rope. Also, we would be tying a knot (get it?!) and would be tying it with teamwork, which is what it takes to build a marriage. Luckily this idea was liked by the man. (Also, yes, I saw this idea on Pintrest, so shoot me. Everyone knows that they get all their ideas off Pintrest. At least I admit it. :) )

The third thing we discussed was a ring warming ceremony. I saw this idea on Weddingbee and liked it. Josh didn't like it as much. Basically, the couple passes the rings around the guests and asks them to send good thoughts and wishes through the rings. I thought it was a good way to make the guests feel involved in the ceremony, rather than just observers. It's something to think about.

Do you have any ideas of how to involve the guests in the ceremony? Also, how many people typically attend the ceremony as opposed to the reception?

Wedding Meeting: Week 2

I decided that I would write about the general feel of our wedding meetings weekly (if I remember) because I would like a record of how they started, and if we get off course, then I have a record of what made it work and what didn't. 

This past week wasn't horrible, but it wasn't great. Josh forgot all about it, and so I had to remind him. The thing about this is that it's fine, but I want him to remember and want to talk about this stuff. I am sure that he will the closer it gets. In past posts I have talked about how it is so far away so it is hard to think that things that we talk about are not just speculation about our wedding one day. There is a day. It's set. It will be our anniversary for the rest of our lives (which is a weird realization in itself). So I understand where he is coming from, but, but I still want him to want to talk about it.

So this week I had made a breakdown of our budget and I shared it with Josh. I am not gonna lie, it's tight. And no, not cool tight. Tight tight. We CAN DO IT though. I have faith, and that was my question of the day for Josh. If I need reassurance about something I will ask him the same question over and over again to hear him say the answer. (Annoying? Immature? Oh well, it helps me.) 

So I ended up leaving the meeting generally feeling down. Hopefully next week will be better. Hope you all have a wonderful Tuesday!

Wedding Meeting: Week One

Wedding planning can consume me. Like, I sometimes think that there is something wrong with me because I can simply not think of anything else. This usually happens when I find an idea that is particularly inspiring or I am looking into vendors and like what I find. Unfortunately, usually my outlet is talking Josh's ear off about it. Now, he is a man that doesn't mind being involved in wedding planning, but he doesn't want to hear about it 24/7. It finally escalated to a disagreement that turned into a shouting match.

This is Josh when he comes home and I talk about weddings non-stop.

We decided that the best way to avoid this would be a "wedding meeting." We decided that one day a week for about an hour we would talk about wedding stuff. Today on the agenda was budget and date. We haven't officially set a date for the wedding yet. Whenever I would talk to vendors about pricing and services, I would either say summer of 2013 or just summer. I felt kinda embarrassed asking questions when it was so far in advanced. Today we finally picked a date, but haven't told many people to confirm it yet, so I am not going to post it here yet. But we are very excited. It is nice to finally know the date that we are going to get married. The feeling was similar to being engaged again, it was nice.

Second was budget. We had disagreed on the way to do a budget in the past. Today, I think that we finally found a way to do it in a way that we can both work with it. I am happy to say it was a successful first "wedding meeting."

I also don't think that I have posted what my budget is officially yet. I have thought about this a lot because I am not sure if I want everyone who reads this blog to know what I will be spending on my wedding, but then again, a big purpose of my blog is trying to do a budget wedding that is just as beautiful as ones that have generous budgets. So anyway, I decided to post it. My unofficial budget is $10,000. Not teeny, but not huge. I now pledge that I will have as gorgeous of a wedding as all of those that get published on other wedding blogs. So there!